It’s a familiar experience, but for some people, it can be life-changing.
It’s also one of the most difficult things they can do for themselves, and many people who do give up have experienced depression, anxiety and self-harm.
As we age, our brains age, and some of the things we experience as new can feel familiar, too.
“We all feel a sense of self-doubt and a sense that something is missing in our lives,” says Anna Sorensen, the author of The Secret to Self-Reliance, a book about how we feel about ourselves and our lives.
“That’s what depression feels like to us.
We’ve been told to feel like we’re worthless or not worth living and now it feels like we have to live up to that image.”
For some, giving up is like walking away from a fight with a loved one.
“It’s like losing a part of yourself, so that you can feel better,” says Katie Tisdale, a counsellor and therapist who works with people who have experienced self-harming and other forms of emotional trauma.
“I’ve always had this thought that when you give up you’re like stepping out of your comfort zone, and then you feel a bit like, I don’t feel good.”
You can also experience depression as a result of neglecting a child or caring for a sick relative.
When your partner or partner’s partner dies, for example, you can become increasingly distant from your children.
But in other cases, you may feel like you’re giving up on the relationship and feeling as if you’ve been abandoned by your partner, says Jennifer Dyer, an expert in grief and bereavement, who also writes for the Huffington Post.
“When you’re in a situation where you’re feeling so helpless, it’s like you’ve got to take that step back and just let go,” she says.
And when you have a relationship with someone who has mental health issues, it is possible for you to feel disconnected and numb.
“You’re thinking, ‘I’m not going to be able to cope, and I’m going to go down this path,'” says Sorelsen.
“And it can make it harder for people to accept that they have mental health problems and for them to talk about it.”
Some people can also feel depressed and anxious, and there are a number of treatment options for people with depression, including medication, therapy and support groups.
But when it comes to giving up, it doesn’t always feel easy.
“There are people who will do it, who will not do it,” says Soren.
“But it’s a hard thing to give up.”
What you can do If you or someone you know is depressed or anxious, talk to your doctor.
It may be a good idea to have someone else try to talk you out of giving up.
“A lot of times, if you know someone who is depressed, you might think, ‘They might be a little too busy with their family to give me advice on it,’ ” says Searnsen.
You might be surprised by how many people are really happy to give advice on things like getting help for depression, and it may be helpful to think about how you might help someone who’s feeling anxious.
“If you think that the person who has depression has it, it makes it hard to talk to them about it,” Tisdales says.
“They might think they don’t have it and they might feel that their life is ruined.
But if you’re aware of what they have, then you can say, ‘You’re not alone.'”
You can talk to friends or family about your thoughts and feelings, and ask them to share their own experiences.
“One of the best ways to talk with people about depression is to have them talk about their own experience,” says Dyer.
“For some people it can feel really hard to find someone who understands their struggles, so it’s helpful to have somebody who understands it.”
And if you are struggling with depression and need support, talk with your GP.
There’s a range of treatments available to help people with mental health disorders, and each has a different benefit and risk profile.
If you’re a person with depression or anxiety, talk about your symptoms and how you’re coping with them with your doctor, and see a specialist.
If your symptoms don’t go away, talk and see your GP about your treatment options.
“Some people feel that depression and anxiety is an invisible illness and it’s just not real to them,” says Tisdals.
“Sometimes people feel really embarrassed about having an illness that they feel so powerless about, and that they can’t help but feel helpless about it.
So that’s really a feeling that can be quite scary.”
You should also discuss how to keep your feelings from becoming an excuse to stop talking, says Tuden.